October 1st marks Domestic Violence Awareness Month. I want to talk to you all about how important awareness is. I used to think it wasn’t important, until I started speaking out.
When I was in my DV relationship, Domestic Violence wasn’t really talked about. In fact, I didn’t even know there was a name for what I had been going through until shortly before I left. I literally thought I was like the only one…and I was so ashamed that all of these women had amazing men who loved and cared about them. I would ask myself…”What did I do so wrong to have this life?”, “why me?”, “there must be something wrong with me because he is nice to everyone…except me.”
I was wrong. He found a new victim when I wasn’t there to blame anymore. I hate that. I hate that I couldn’t stop him and someone else is living in the hell I did. But, I keep telling myself…I can only be in charge of me.
So, in 2015 I decided I was going to speak out. I wasn’t going to stay silent anymore. That is just what I did. I created a domestic violence photoshoot that reached over 8 MILLION people! (I’ve done a second one that I plan to post over the next couple of weeks.) I was shocked. I now own and admin two facebook domestic violence support groups. I help victims every single day in their situation, both local and worldwide. After stating this journey of advocacy.. I have answered my own “Why Me?” question.
I am strong(er).
I am willing to share my story.
I am determined to make a difference in my community.
I am no longer ashamed.
I am no longer a prisoner in my own home.
I now have a supportive partner who cheers for me, instead of degrades me.
I have six children I want to raise to be amazing MEN and WOMEN.
I have goals for my success in DV awareness, and I don’t plan to stop until I reach them.